Paul Gilbert http://j.mp/VIbSXh
What does compassion and self-compassion mean?
peoples inner voice was cold and hostile.
asked them to Imagine a kind warm voice
didn't seem to work well.
Started getting interested in Buddhism
Did a lot of different practices. drama, etc.
how to get an affiliative feeling for the self.
affiliative : relating to the formation of social and emotional bonds with others or to the desire to create such bonds.
affiliative emotion - kindness, supportive,
got into attachment theory
mammalian caring behavior - mother caring for the child
calms and sooths the child and teacher emotional regulation
secure based for going out into the world
Want to activate that process in people with (CFT)
the root is to feel "affiliative feeling"
if we feel distressed we turn to relationships.
an experience of openheartedness
the experience of suffering and wanting to alleviate it.
an experience of openheartedness in the presence of pain
a capacity and skill to be with pain
having loving kindness